kindness to parents

[ابوالوليد المسلم]

kindness to parents
حسام بن عبدالعزيز الجبرين






kindness to parents














Praise belongs to Allah, we praise him, and we ask him for guidance and forgiveness.








And we seek protection in Allah from the malice of our souls, and the evil of our actions.








Whom Allah guides, no one can lead him astray, and whom He makes astray, no one can lead him back to the right path.








I bear witness that there is no other deity but Allah, by himself, no associate to him, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.








"O you who believed! Fear Allah as He should be feared, and die not except as Muslims."[Aali 'Imran * 3:102].








"O men, fear your Lord who created you from a single soul, and from it created its match, and spread many men and women from the two. Fear Allah in whose name you ask each other (for your rights), and fear (the violation of the rights of) the womb-relations. Surely, Allah is watchful of you. [Al-Nisa:01].








"O you who believe, fear Allah and speak in straightforward words. If you do so,) Allah will correct your deeds for your benefit, and forgive your sins for you. Whoever obeys Allah and His Messenger achieves a great success".[Al-Ahzab:70-71].







Afterwards,



The best of speech is the book of Allah, and the best way of life is the Prophet Muhammad’s way of life ( peace be upon him). The evilest of the matters are those which have been invented (having no proof in Quran and Sunnah) and each invented matter is a deviation from the right path and each deviation leads to hellfire.








Dear friends,



Your parents love you the most compared to all other human beings. They Serve you the most than other human beings. They have devoted themselves to you. And it has been human nature that they love those people who are kind to them. And who can be the greatest benefactors other than parents?








Allah the Almighty has combined parents' rights with His right, their gratitude with His gratitude, and enjoined to do good after the command to worship Him. He said: "Worship Allah, and do not associate with Him anything, and be good to parents" [Al-Nisa:36].








Creation is the great bounty of Allah. Parents are blessed with the blessing of birth and upbringing.







Dear honourable brothers,







We do not remember those days when we were in the darkness of the womb, nor do we recall the sufferings and pain that our mothers faced during birth and breastfeeding, but God reminds us of those days. He says: "We commanded man (to be good) in respect of his parents. His mother carried him (in her womb) despite weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. (We said to man,) “Be grateful to Me, and your parents. To Me is the ultimate return" [Luqman:14].








She carried you in her womb for nine months. She used to rejoice at your movement in the womb and she used to be very happy with your weight gain while it was a heavy load upon her. Then the moment of birth came, and the mother saw death with her eyes. But when you were born, the tears of your crying mixed with tears of her joy, and your birth removed her pain and wounds.








You were a weak infant. Allah gave you the senses, surrounded you with the most merciful of people, That's your caring and loving mother; one who watched over your comfort, and a compassionate father who strives for your benefit, and repels all kinds of harm from you, and at times, he travels and bears hardship and dangers in search of a living, spends on you, natures you and raises you, when you enter him, he feels calm and relaxed. And if he comes out, you cling to him, and if he comes in, you embrace him. These are your parents, and that is your childhood and youth. so, never forget their favours, especially, when they are old, ponder over what your Lord says: "and do good to parents. If any one of them or both of them reach old age,". [Al-Isra: 23].








This part of the verse indicates that they must be given assistance and safeguarded and must be cared for regarding their need. Because they fulfilled their responsibility and completed their task. Now it is your tune. Allah says: "Do not say to them: if (a word or expression of anger or contempt) and do not scold them, and address them with respectful words".[Al-Isra’: 23].








When the parents reach old age, they face physical and mental weakness and they may have reached the most despicable age, which may cause boredom for you. In such critical conditions, Allah has forbidden the children to be restless with them rather Allah ordered them to address them respectfully. And ordered to submit oneself before them in humility out of compassion. so, one should address them like the one who belittles himself before them and must treat them as a servant who feels humiliated before his master. And pray for their mercy as they were merciful towards him in his childhood.







O Allah's servants,



Whoever desires a great reward, let him know that the mother is one of the wide gates of Paradise, and only one neglects it who deprives himself of goodness. Muawiyah bin Jahama Al-Sulami - may God be pleased with him - came to the Prophet - peace and blessings be upon him- three times, seeking permission for jihad,(holy battle) and in each time, the prophet replied him: "Woe to you! Is your mother still alive?’ I said: ‘Yes.’ He said: ‘Go back and serve her, for there is Paradise".








some righteous men extracted that kissing mother's feet is permissible.








Muawiyah bin Jahama Al-Sulami - may Allah be pleased with him - used to kiss his mother’s feet every day. One day he came late to his brothers. so, they asked him about it, he said:



“I was wandering in the gardens of Paradise. We heard that Paradise is under the feet of mothers.”








And whoever loves to have his sustenance and life expanded, then he should keep a good relationship and do righteousness, for it mentioned in hadith that"whoever desires an expansion in his sustenance and age, he should keep good relations with his Kith and kin."








And parents are more worthy of your righteousness.







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Afterwards,



Dear friends,








I may remind myself here and you about some aspects of righteousness. so, take what is appropriate.








Parents are a wide door of Paradise.








1- One aspect to be good with them is that we should serve our parents before they ask us for it. and we should strive to fulfil their needs as soon as possible.








2- It is also righteousness that we should have a good relationship with our relatives and we must strengthen our ties with them. Through this, our parents will feel quite happy.








3- It is also righteousness that we must be good for our relatives. such as maternal uncles, aunts, and others.








4- It is also righteousness that we must keep praying for them for forgiveness, mercy, guidance, steadfastness, wellness, and righteousness and their offspring. And if they are married we should pray for love and affection between them. and if one or both of them die, then pray for forgiveness and mercy. And it is better to do charity on behalf of the deceased or associate them with your charity. and be keen to contribute to an endowment project, even if it is a small amount, and you will have if Allah wills, the reward of righteousness and the reward of charity, and it will also cause purification of your heart.








5- It is also righteousness to take them for a walk nearby. This activity will keep them active and fresh.








6- It is also an aspect of righteousness to invite them over for a meal or coffee so that grandmother or grandfather can share stories and memorable moments with their grandchildren.








7- And it is also righteousness to pray for them and praise them and respect their feelings and emotions and make them feel that your success in life is the result of their upbringing and efforts. Make them aware of that when you receive a certificate, promotion, or love and appreciation for your morals.








8- And Among the aspects of righteousness is kissing the head or the hand of parents and accustoming your offspring to do the same. and if a person can kiss the head of an old man and a scholar, then it is good to kiss the hand of parents. It is mentioned in the Qur'an: "And submit yourself before them in humility out of compassion". [Al-Isra: 24].








9- It is also righteousness to listen to them attentively. Keep yourself focused and don't be distracted by the devices that have become the door to disobedience for some Muslims!








And it is, needless to say, visit your parents if they are in your country and contact them if they are outside the country.








10- It is also righteousness to offer presents and gifts and if they are not rich allocate monthly cash for them.








11- It is also righteousness to take your offspring to them to greet and interact with them.








12- It is also righteousness to talk to them about yourself and to consult them about some of your affairs. Like this, talk to them about what they like to talk about, and they often want to talk about what they know about the past.








13- It is also righteousness to avoid complaining before them.Because it makes them feel overwhelmed.








14- It is also righteousness that one must respect their friends as per the capability. When 'Abdullah bin 'Umar set out to Mecca, 'he kept a donkey with him which he used as a diversion from the tedium of journey on the camel's back and had a turban which he tied around his head. One day, as he was riding the donkey a desert Arab happened to pass by him. He ('Abdullah bin 'Umar) said:Aren't you so and so? He said: Yes He gave him his donkey and said: Ride it and tie the turban around your head. Some of his companions said: May Allah pardon you, you gave to this desert Arab the donkey on which you enjoyed the ride for diversion and the turban which you tied round yours. head. Thereupon he said: Verily I heard Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as saying: The finest act of goodness is the kind treatment of a person to the loved ones of his father after his death and the father of this person was a friend of 'Umar. (Sahih Muslim:2552).








So, can you guess about the dignity of the father’s friend?








15- it is also righteousness that one must make arrangements for his parents to be together with his friends and loved ones to interact with them.








And if your parents passed away, then may Allah bless you and gather you with them in paradise. A poet said:



I cried for the death of my parents, and whoever lives after his parents die he can live in every difficult circumstance".








Visit their graves and pray to Allah for them. your prayer will benefit them.








Abu Huraira reported:The Apostle of Allah (ﷺ) visited the grave of his mother and he wept, and moved others around him to tear, and said: I sought permission from my Lord to beg forgiveness for her but it was not granted to me, and I sought permission to visit her grave and it was granted to me so visit the graves, for that makes you mindful of death. (Sahih Muslim: 976).








Dear friends,



We must avoid disobeying our parents. Because disobedience is a major sin.








`Abdullah bin `Amr narrated: A bedouin came to the Prophet and said, "O Allah's Messenger! What are the biggest sins?: The Prophet said, "To join others in worship with Allah." The bedouin said, "What is next?" The Prophet said, "To be undutiful to one's parents." The bedouin said, "What is next?" The Prophet said, "To take an oath 'Al-Shamus." The bedouin said, "What is an oath 'Al-Ghamus'?" The Prophet said, "The false oath through which one deprives a Muslim of his property (unjustly). (Sahih al-Bukhari: 6920).












O Allah's servants,



We must avoid the disobedience of our parents and what disturbs the thoughts of our parents. We should avoid arguing with our brothers and sisters, especially when our parents are present.








My young brother:



Do not be overwhelmed when your parents wake you up for prayer and study. Rather, it is good, you wake up yourself and wake your brothers if you can.








My young brother,



Do not ask your parents for difficult things. If you have to ask, ask them politely, moderately, and without urgency. Because the expenses are much more and you may not know about his other obligations. If you want to travel, consult them. and if they want you to stay, then do not travel. Don't reject their feelings and wishes. If you see any mistake in their feelings, tell them politely. Because, what you think is a mere opinion and what your parents think, is also an opinion. Avoid hurting them.









And in conclusion: we must be keen to do good with our parents in different ways. and must avoid disobeying them.








Send peace, blessings and salutations.