Secrets Of Quran Miracles

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Western countries return to the principles of Islam



Again, western countries are calling to separate boys and girls in schools, let us read …

Boys need to be taught separately from girls from the age of five to prevent them being damaged by the education system, experts claimed.

Dr Leonard Sax argues that boys are "turned off" by starting formal education too soon when they are expected to sit down and keep quiet in class. And, because they develop at different rates to girls, they can be discouraged from learning while very young when sat alongside female classmates.

He said: "With boys you have to start right away. If you wait until secondary school, you have waited too long. From the age of five, there are clear advantages in all-boys' education when teachers know how to take advantage of it."

Sax refers to a few other studies that he says show that girls and boys draw differently, including one from a group of Japanese researchers who found girls’ drawings typically depict still lifes of people, pets or flowers, using 10 or more crayons, favoring warm colors like red, green, beige and brown; boys, on the other hand, draw action, using 6 or fewer colors, mostly cool hues like gray, blue, silver and black. This apparent difference, which Sax argues is hard-wired, causes teachers to praise girls’ artwork and make boys feel that they’re drawing incorrectly.

Glory to Allah who says in the Qur’an about that issue And the male is not like the female)[Sûrat Al-Imrân-(The Family of Imran)verse36].

Dr. Sax believes girls also benefit from single-*** education because they can concentrate on subjects such as maths, which is traditionally seen as a "male" interest.

WeMuslims can find in the Sunnah the same instructions as the prophet peace be upon him orders us by saying: {separate between boys and girls in beds} as both of them must sleep in a separated beds if they became adults.

Also the great religion of Islam orders men not to look at forbidden things by saying: (Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do.)[Sûrat An-Nûr-The Light- verse 30].

At the end we say that whoever read the latest researches in many disciplines will discover that western scientists and researchers are calling people to avoid alcohol, not to eat too much and women to wear decent clothes , so they returns to the principles of Islam.

Allah almighty says: (And whoever seeks a religion other than Islam, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers.)[Sûrat Al-ImrânSûrat Al-Imrân-verse85].

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By: Abduldaem Al-Kaheel

References:

• http://www.nytimes.com/2008/03/02/ma...x3-t.html?_r=1

• http://www.whygendermatters.com/

• http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...ys-expert.html

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Walking to mosques is a wonderful sport



According to a latest research, walking is a useful sport to prevent some knees diseases …

After many studies on athletics, scientists have found that people who used to practice jogging or walking, have muscles and knees in a good condition as long as they keep practicing without a stop. Also they found that people who stop practicing are exposed to knees problems.

So they made a result that daily walking strengthen knees, also regular and continuous walking helps the Knee’s cartilage to be used for movement and loading ,sothe knees become used on walking and running for decades without being hurt.

Here, we remember what happened between the prophet peace be upon him and the blind man who asked the prophet to pray at home , but the prophet refused and ordered him to pray at the mosque even in “Fajr prayer” because if he stayed at home , he will be ill by many diseases because of staying without practicing walking.

This is an indication that all orders of this religion are good for us even if we don’t understand what behind the order. The prophet said to his companion (do you want to know what erase sins and raise Muslims to the upper levels in heaven , they said yes, then the prophet said that you must make the ablution perfectly and to walk to mosques and to wait the prayers .)[Narrated by Muslim].

Don’t we have to be proud with this marvelous religion?

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By: Abduldaem Al-Kaheel

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Dog breeding is forbidden according to a prophetic order, why?



In this article a new scientific discovery which is a proof on the sincerity of the prophet, let us read …

Always, we find in our prophet’s instructions many benefits for us as Allah almighty says about the prophet: “Verily, there has come unto you a Messenger (Muhammad) from amongst yourselves (i.e. whom you know well). It grieves him that you should receive any injury or difficulty. He (Muhammad ) is anxious over you (to be rightly guided, to repent to Allah, and beg Him to pardon and forgive your sins, in order that you may enter Paradise and be saved from the punishment of the Hell-fire), for the believers (he is) full of pity, kind, and merciful.”[Sûrat At-Taubah(The Repentance)-verse 128].

One of these useful instructions is that the prophet asked us not to breed dogs inside houses, which complies with the latest scientific discoveries.

Analysis of breast cancer cases by researchers at the University of Munich showed that patients with this type of cancer were significantly more likely to have kept a dog than a cat.They found that 79.7 per cent of all patients had intensive contact with dogs before they were diagnosed and only 4.4 per cent of the patients did not have pets at any time compared to 57.3 per cent of a healthy ******* group. So there was a 29-fold increased risk for pet owners.

Also, prophet Mohamed peace be upon him ordered us to wash the used plate by the dog for seven times one of these times to be by dust.

Here we have to remember that the prophet peace be upon him didn’t make any comment about breeding cats as he used to see one of his companions (Abo horaira) who like cats and used to breed a cat and the prophet did not comment about that act, but on the other hand he ordered people not to breed dogs in houses but they can keep it outside the house for guarding purposes.

Keeping dogs outside the house “in garden for example” is acceptable according to the prophet orders as that keep dogs away from any direct contact with human

Another study in Norway reported a very high level53.3 per centof breast cancers in 14,401 dogs.

In looking for a reason, scientists found a virus common in both dogs and humans.

The one they homed in on is the” mouse mammary tumour virus” (MMTV), which triggers breast cancer in mice and which has been investigated for possible links to human breast cancer.

The theory is that dogs, and possibly other pets, transmit MMTV or MMTVlike viruses that can induce human breast cancer.

The researchers say the theory may help to explain why women from Eastern countries are at increased risk of breast cancer when they move to Western nations? Asian or Oriental women seldom keep dogs as pets.

Migration to Western countries may cause them to alter their lifestyle, including keeping pet dogs.

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By: Abduldaem Al-Kaheel

References:

Can dogs give you breast cancer?, daily mail, 30th October 2007

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-490581/Can-dogs-breast-cancer-Bizarre-medical-theories-experts-claim-actually-true.html

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16516398

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Scientists admit their failure in front of AIDS

In the following article, we shall identify the last report about AIDS, the disease for which the scientist failed to find a treatment …

In the following article, we shall identify the last report about AIDS, the disease for which the scientist failed to find a treatment; they even failed to decrease its incidence, let us read………

In a report published by CNN, researchers announced that AIDS rate of incidence is increasing day after day. Despite the billions being paid, they failed to find an effective treatment for this disease until now. The Center for Disease ******* and prevention CDC said that there are more infections of Human Immunodeficiency Viruse (HIV) between Americans with rates higher than what used to be thought. Keeve Vinton, Manger of AIDS Dept at the center, had pointed out that about 56 thousand new cases were recorded last year, which means 40% increase over previous estimations.

The center stated that there is likely a possibility of recording 40 thousand new case annually, however, estimates depended on limited data and less precise means.

The CDC is currently depending on new techniques that can determine the infection during five months, instead of depending on statistical models as before.

The diagnosis of HIV was taking years after catching the virus. This researcher said that having 56 thousand American stricken annually will necessarily set off the alarm and recall all of us to be awake and conscious.

The Chief of AIDS Medical Care Unit, Michael Weinstein, criticized the American administration saying that these numbers form bitter condemnation for how the US and CDC efforts had failed in preventing this disease. And he claimed Washington administration to customize two hundred million USD for the detection of ten million persons likely to have the disease over the coming three years.

The CDC report says that there is more than a million American carrying HIV and that quarter of them are ignorant with their infection. It was published in the report that 53% of the new infections was among gays and bisexual people.

Americans of African origins represent 45% of the new infections and 25 thousand new infections yearly, which means that they are at higher risk of incidence by 7 folds compared to the white Americans. A report released on Tuesday had revealed that the severity of this disease prevalence in some areas of the US is similar to the epidemic prevalence in some areas of Africa. The report, prepared by the Black AIDS Institute, and called "the Marginalized- Black Americans: forgotten minority in the International AIDS" aimed at publishing the awareness and remembering that the disease is still standing in the US and specifically among the Black people.

Dr. Antony Fod, the manager of the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases, said in a documentary film released by CNN lately about Black people in US that 5% of all Washington DC citizens are HIV carriers, which is *****alent to the rates in countries like Uganda and South Africa. The report had laid out a rule which states that if the Black American had made a country, they would have occupied a degree above Ethiopia (420 thousand to million and 300 thousand) and below Ivory Coast (750 thousand) in terms of numbers of HIV carriers.

How should we read this report as Muslims?

Dear brothers and sisters in Islam, this is the reality that America lives today, as they have failed completely to find an effective treatment for AIDS which have killed millions despite the huge technical and scientific development they have.

They have taken preventive and awareness methods and continued research and study in their labs to find the effective vaccine and spend billions of dollars to ******* this killing disease, still the disease is continue to develop and the number of infected people increase day after day.

The Quran had treated this phenomenon with one direction throughout this verse: "And come not near to unlawful ***. Verily, it is a Fâhishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin), and an evil way (that leads one to Hell unless Allâh forgives him)" (32: Al Isra'a). let's contemplate how great is this call in which Allah, all praises to Him, similitude the fornication as great sin and the worst way the person can choose, the consequence was that the Muslims responded to this call and fortified themselves against this disease and other diseases.

Nowadays, the west, with its entire sophisticated means, is standing helpless in front of the AIDS phenomenon, why? Because it did not response to the divine call and choose the way of obscenity. Therefore, whatever precautions he made will not serve him in AIDS treatment unless it adheres to Allah's guidance and path, all praises to Him. This hadeeth is considered a miracle in our time as who informed the prophet about the disease that are totally unknown in the past accompanied with the appearance of fortification and doing it apparently.

If Muhammad, peace be upon him, wanted fame, glory, wealth and power, he would allow his nation to drink alcohol and make adultery which they were already doing at that time, wouldn’t he? But we find him strictly prohibit drinking alcohol, adultery and homosexuality.

The science had verified the harms of these acts which prove that he is Allah's apostle; the Almighty who knows the most hidden secrets, this great God wants the best and happiness for us in the life and the hereafter.

We ask Allah, the Almighty to keep ourselves in right path and to gain more knowledge and act with it and to avoid us going astray, "to (They say): "Our Lord! Let not our hearts deviate (from the truth) after you have guided us, and grant us mercy from you. Truly, you are the Bestower." (8: Al Imran).

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By: Abduldaem Al-Kaheel

References:

http://arabic.cnn.com/2008/scitech/8/3/HIV.CDC/index.html

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Kindness to Parents Increases Vitality

"Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents"….

Quran miracles do not confine to the scientific, linguistic, or numerical side… Because if we contemplate the Quran, we will see a true miracle in each verse, and this is what has occupied my thinking for years when I was observing Almighty's saying "Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour. And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: "My Lord! bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood."[Isra: 23-24]

I was wondering: if this Quran was the speech of Mohammed (pbuh), why will he delve into such issues? And why will he recommend parents to that extent? Why did not he ask the youth to revolt against parents and fight against old ideas as witnessed in the west and led to overfill hospices with parents and elderly?

Recently, scholars have started to realize the importance of caring for parents which helps the parents to be protected from diseases and raises their immune system. Friendship is "true youth elixir" for elderly as said by one scholar, and social activity keeps the safety of the brain nerves as revealed in a recent study.

A recent study affirmed that success of elderly in varying their friendship and sustaining social relationships may help them in feeling they are younger than their actual ages, besides; it allows them to keep their vitality and ability to move actively.

The study which was published by "Internal Medicine Documents" reported that elderly motor skills are directly related to their relationships and their daily practices which if increase; raise their positive effect on the brain. Dr. Aaron Bushman, a neurology specialist in Rush University, Chicago, USA, and who supervised the study, said that what urged them to carry this study was an observation of the retreat of motor skills and walk speed in elderly compared to what they had in their youth.

And he continued, "Our study may open a new horizon for studying the link between social activities and motor skills". According to the study, a set of evidence has been identified to indicate that participating in activities stimulating thinking, social involvement and systematic practice of sports may limit the decrease in movement associated to aging.

Then, the study added that those activities excrete certain proteins that can protect the nerves of the brain from rapid death, and promote the strength of the bonds among them, and this protection sustains the body ability to continue active movement as it was in the youth stage.

The study, which included 906 cases of individuals whose average age was 80 years, reported that those who kept friendship relationship, ties, and social activities were able to perform a number of movements which cannot be done by most elderly, among them was walking in a straight line, standing on one leg, standing on toes and turning around. On the other hand, the study considers movement defects in elderly represent an early indicator of existence of problems related to their brain abilities.

What about Islam?

Please beloved dears consider what scholars have said on the importance of elderly social relationships, because they lost family ties and there are no teachings asking for caring for parents. However, Islam has not ignored that, the Prophet (pbuh) recommended caring for parents, even after they had passed away, we were ordered to honor their friends!!!

While the Quran considered caring for parents as the greatest deed after worshiping Allah, let's consider this great comprehensive verse: "Serve Allah, and join not any partners with Him; and do good- to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, those in need, neighbours who are near, neighbours who are strangers, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (ye meet), and what your right hands possess: For Allah loveth not the arrogant, the vainglorious" [An-Nisa: Women:37] It represents the climax of caring for parents, relatives, orphans, neighbors and also servants and companions!

Therefore, it can be said that what scholars have discovered represents concrete evidence that Islam preceded them to that, and this bears out that it is a divine legalization, a religion of mercy, peace and love, and not a religion of backwardness as they claim! Almighty says, "O mankind! there hath come to you a direction from your Lord and a healing for the (diseases) in your hearts,- and for those who believe, a guidance and a Mercy." [Younis: Jonah: 57]

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By: Abduldaem Al-Kaheel

Reference: cnn.com

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Good Relations Increase Productivity in the Workplace

The study concluded that social networking in the workplace may affect positively the final outcome of the company production.….
A recent study pointed that social networking and good relations between workmates may increase the productivity of a less efficient worker, and that leads to positive effects for establishments where social incentives are not less important than financial incentives.
The study which was done by Future Work Institute, Bon, Germany showed that companies which employ workers who are engaged in good friendship relations produce more compared to other companies. The study, which was declared on the 26th of May 2009 and was carried out by scholars from American and British universities, confirmed that less efficient workers may increase their productivity abilities. It is possible to increase their abilities to a percentage that may reach 10%, and make them able to work with high effectiveness when their friends are present in the work environment.
The study was conducted on workers in one of the British companies specialized in growing fruits. Simultaneously, the study pointed, on the other hand, that there was a decrease in the performance of high-productive employees who were directly in touch with the less-performance employees during work. Nonetheless, it culminated that final outcome for this companies and establishments where both kinds of workers work, was positive.
American and British researchers conducted their study on employees in one of the British companies specialized in growing fruits. They commenced the study by asking the less-performance employees about their workmates who they are connected to with good relations, and accordingly changed the work schedules to allow these employees to work together in certain days. Unexpected results revealed that less-performance workers' productivity increased 10% during that period compared to other periods because of their presence in the environment of their friends, with whom they have good relationships. While the work speed of high-performance workers decreased by almost an equal percent due to adaptation to the low performance of their workmates.
Experts think the phenomenon is due to that happiness in the work environment improves performance; productive performance of low- performance workers improves due to proximity of workmates connected with affection and love. A company which employs workers engaged in friendship relationships can achieve a raise of about 3% in its sales

The study concluded that social networking in the workplace may affect positively the final outcome of the company production. Though, these results cannot be applied on every company or establishment, the study shows that social incentives are not less important than financial incentives and they play an important role in increasing productivity.
Now to summarize our true religion teachings in points:
1. Islam affirmed the importance of good relationships among people, Almighty says, "O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other). Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of you. And Allah has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things)." [Al-Hujraat: The Private Appartments:13]
2. Many verses ask us to build good relations with others e.g. Almighty says,
"O ye who believe! Avoid suspicion as much (as possible): for suspicion in some cases is a sin: And spy not on each other behind their backs. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? Nay, ye would abhor it...But fear Allah. For Allah is Oft-Returning, Most Merciful." [Al-Hujraat: The Private Appartments: 12]
3. The believer is a brother of a believer: This is a great Prophet's saying; The Prophet (pbuh) considered that relationships between believers should be brotherhood relationships, and this is the highest in good relations. Almighty says, “The Believers are but a single Brotherhood…" [Al-Hujraat: The Private Appartments:10]
4. Allah has ordered us kindness, and that is the finest in human relations, to be kind to others, forgive who did injustice, let go of an insulter unpunished, Almighty says, "…but do good; for Allah loveth those who do good." [Al-Baqara: The Cow:195]
5. Allah has ordered us to forgive and pardon others, Almighty says, "let them forgive and overlook, do you not wish that Allah should forgive you? For Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."[AN-Noor: The Light: 22] and also has ordered us to cooperate for beneficence and piety…
6. The Prophet (pbuh) has been an example of good relations. He did not get angry unless one of Allah's sanctities is violated, he did not insult, hit, or show arrogance, and he was helping others, besides, he was saying, " who relieves a Muslim from the plight of distress, Allah relieves him from one of the plights of distress of The Day of Resurrection,"
7. In a great saying of the Prophet(pbuh), he considered good manners, the heaviest in the balance of man on The Day of Judgment and he said, " The nearest place to me on The Day of Judgment is the one with the best ethics"
8. Please consider with me those teachings that aim at building the best and finest kinds of human relations inside and outside the workplace. Therefore, what about carrying a similar study of the effect of Islam teachings on productivity in the workplace, and present it to the world to see the greatness of this religion and its teachings strong effect?
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By: Abduldaem Al-Kaheel
www.kaheel7.com/eng

Reference: http://www.dw-world.de/

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Importance of Positive Behavior in the Believer



"A strong believer is better and is loved by Allah than a weak believer and there is goodness in each".….

In an article published in the BBC Homepage, researchers in Texas University found that positive behavior postpones aging stages. The researchers added that individuals who see life with hope; appearance of aging signs decreases in comparison to pessimistic people. Researchers said that the study results reported in Psychology and Aging Magazine pointed that psychological factors in addition to genes and physical health play together a role in determining how quickly one reaches old age.

The research team in Texas University conducted a study on 1558 of elderly to see if there is a relationship between positive feelings and the start of weakness stage. All volunteers in the study were in good health at the beginning of the study, seven years ago.

Researchers measured development of aging signs in the participants through measuring their weight loss, effort, and walk speed and grip strength. Researchers concluded that participants with positive attitude towards life were less exposed to weakness signs than others. They noted that there is a need to conduct more studies to highlight this relation.

Researchers predicted that positive feelings may affect health directly by changing the chemical balance in the body. Maybe, the reason for this relation was the optimistic orientation which helps in promoting human health through giving preponderance to the success of those individuals in life.

Herein, I would like to recall Almighty saying, "Say: "In the bounty of Allah. And in His Mercy,- in that let them rejoice": that is better than the (wealth) they hoard." [Yunus: Jonah: 58] This verse tells us that a believer rejoices Almighty's clemency; this delight is a kind of positive behavior and a kind of optimism that provides the believer happiness and longevity and increases his body immunity against diseases.

Dr. Glen Austere, head of the research team, said, "I think there is a connection between brain and body where our ideas, behaviors and feelings affect in general body functions and health, through direct means e.g. immunity system functions, or through indirect ones e.g. social support networks.

Another study published in the same magazine pointed that the mindset may affect physical performance. In this study, researchers in North Carolina requested 153 individuals from different ages to have a test on memory after hearing positive and negative words.

Negative expressions included disturbance, dementia, senility, while positive expressions included accomplishments, activeness, and distinction. The results had revealed that memory performance in adult participants was weak after they were exposed to negative expressions.

On the hand, there was a big difference in memory performance between youth and adults who were exposed to positive expressions. Researchers said that their study indicates that if elderly were treated as active members in the society, they will be that. Thomas Heath, head of research team, said, "There may be social reasons that have strong effect on adult memory performance."

Herein, we recall a wonderful Prophet's saying full of positive teachings, the Prophet says. "A strong believer is better and is loved by Allah than a weak believer and there is goodness in each". This instigates the believer to be strong not only in his body but also in his faith, culture, ethics and patience.

Patience is a great positive behavior, its importance was not known to scholars until recently, but Allah Almighty made the reward for patience entrance of paradise without measure, Consider with me this fantastic divine promise "…those who patiently persevere will truly receive a reward without measure!" [Az-Zumar: The Troops: 10]

Also, the Quran tells us that a believer never grieves because sadness is a negative behavior and if we consider the meaning 'grieve' in the Quran, we will always find it preceded by the word 'not', what means that a believer does not mourn. Consider with me this Prophet's words said in a very difficult situation in the cave, Almighty says, "and he said to his companion, "Have no fear, for Allah is with us" [At-Tawba: Repentance: 40] See how the Prophet taught Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) not to be sad, what a fantastic speech that cannot be except from a true prophet who knows he is the messenger of this universe Creator?

Optimism for increasing life

A team of researchers has found evidence that proves the pros of optimism on an individual's life. This team of psychologists concluded that individuals with optimistic attitude towards getting old live more than their peers who surrender to anxiety.

Now, consider with me this verse, Almighty says, "So lose not heart, nor fall into despair: For ye must gain mastery if ye are true in Faith." [Al'Imran: The House of 'Imran: 139] It is a verse that urges a believer to behave positively and not grieve or weaken. Scholars say that feeling weakness deteriorates man’s immune system, besides, one's feeling of permanent grief causes him varieties of psychological unrest.

A study done by a team from Yale University, Connecticut State, USA, reported that individuals who are utterly scared of aging, old age signs appear on them faster. Researchers of this study which was published in Personality and Social Psychology Magazine added that those who welcome aging live even more than those who try to quit smoking or practice aerobics.

A believer does not fear aging, but he loves meeting with Allah in the Hereafter, therefore Almighty says, " For those whose hopes are in the meeting with Allah (in the Hereafter, let them strive); for the term (appointed) by Allah is surely coming and He hears and knows (all things)." [Al-'Ankbut: The Spider:5]. A believer is happy at death, and does not fear or grieve, Almighty says, "In the case of those who say, "Our Lord is Allah., and, further, stand straight and steadfast, the angels descend on them (from time to time): "Fear ye not!" (they suggest), "Nor grieve! but receive the Glad Tidings of the Garden (of Bliss), the which ye were promised!" [Fussilat: Signs: 30]. Consider how many positive messages are included in these verses for a believer to make his life glad and happy and not to grieve or fear. Thus, these verses cure anxiety where psychology has failed to do so!

It was clear to American researchers that people who are not scared of old age, live seven and half years more than those who spend their time regretting past days. The team led by Dr. Rebecca Levy thinks dealing negatively with the aging process has a direct effect on clinging to life.

Scholars said that the pros of acceptance of aging law are greater than the processes with physiological nature e.g. ******* of high blood pressure and cholesterol which is believed to elongate life for the highest of four extra years.

This means that the psychological factor is more important than the physiological, in other words, positive teachings that a human receives and practices have bigger effect on one's happiness and longevity more than the effect of medicine and medical care! So, the Quran is full of positive teachings which this study cannot handle all, but for example, let's consider Almighty saying, "Say: "O my Servants who have transgressed against their souls! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah. for Allah forgives all sins: for He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful." [Az-Zumar: The Troops: 53] A verse rich of mercy, full of optimism and not despair, and this reminds me of the story of Jacob when he lost his two sons: Josef and his brother, he had not felt despair of Allah's mercy, see how he addressed his sons: "O my sons! go ye and enquire about Joseph and his brother, and never give up hope of Allah's Soothing Mercy: truly no one despairs of Allah's Soothing Mercy, except those who have no faith."[Yusif: Josef: 87] See how the Quran considered despair as no faith!! Why? To send us a strong message that despair of Allah's Mercy is forbidden in Islam, and this is what earlier Muslims had practiced gave them the force that took them to all corners of the universe.

As, the effect of positive dealing with aging is more obvious than other factors such as keeping light weight, quitting smoking and practicing aerobics- factors believed to add at the highest three years to one's life.

Researchers based their conclusions on a study conducted on 660 volunteers, age range was from fifty years plus, death rates of those studied were compared to their answers to a questionnaire given before 32 years. Respondents were asked their consent or disagreement to expressions such as "As you become old, you become useless". Dr. Levy's team says that true clinging to life explains partially the relation between positive thinking and longevity.

However, those researchers indicate that this is not the only cause for that; they think stress plays another role in affecting heart. A previous study had showed that hearts and arteries of pessimists of getting old do not respond efficiently to stress and pressure.

The researchers say that it is probable that one's saturation of society negative attitudes towards aging may have an effect on/in him without his knowledge of that. Researchers attest that their study bear two messages, the first is depressing and it says that negative attitude towards oneself decreases living probabilities, and the other is encouraging, it includes that positive attitude may assist in elongating one's life. Simultaneously, researchers brought attention to the Western societies’ non-positive attitude towards elderly which may exacerbate problems.

We can conclude from these studies that:

1. Optimism increases body defense against diseases and gives man happiness in life, and this is a wonderful prophetical attitude, for Aysha (may Allah be pleased with her) when she was asked about the Prophet's ethics, she said that his ethics was the Quran, he had followed the Quran completely and thus, he got true happiness. We must follow him in our behavior so that the Quran will be our ethics.

As an example, there is a marvelous divine formula for dealing with difficulties and daily problems, where psychology fails to give satisfaction of reality, the Quran does, Almighty says, "But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you" [Al-Baqara: The Cow:216]. If we carry out this verse, all our problems, worries and anxiety and fear they cause will vanish, because a believer is satisfied with Allah's judgment even if it appears to be evil and bad, nevertheless, good may follow later, then, the believer waits for this good, thus, he practices the required optimism and refrains from sadness. This is an effective cure to anxiety.

2. Positive thinking is more important and effective in curing diseases than medical treatment! Physicians failed to give hope or happiness to a dying man, but the Quran teachings give this happiness whatever circumstances are. Recall with me when the Prophet was dying, what did he do? Did he mourn? Was he desperate? Was he anxious, depressed or scared? Never.

His daughter Fatima said, "O' Calamity" and he answered, "No calamity on your father hereafter"!! See this optimism, the Prophet at the dying moment was happy and cheerful to meet with Allah, what about us, do we copy this Merciful Messenger?

3. Dealing with reality with self satisfaction and contentment make man happier and the man who complains and not be satisfied with his share of livelihood is more miserable and his immune system is weak. This explains why thinking of diseases, fear, grief and negative thinking, all increase the probability of having chronic diseases! The Prophet was the most optimistic of Allah's Mercy, he was urging us to be optimistic and satisfied and he was saying, "I agree that Allah be my God, Islam be my religion and the Quran be my Imam (guide)" whoever says that deserves that Allah makes him satisfied on the Day of Resurrection!

All of the above can be summarized in one great verse which addressed our Prophet, to teach us how to behave positively in our lives, Almighty says, "And do thou be patient, for thy patience is but from Allah. nor grieve over them: and distress not thyself because of their plots." [An-Nahl: The Bee: 127]. Patience, non-mourning, non-complaining and non-resentment, all this has a price but what is it? The answer is in the following verse: "For Allah is with those who restrain themselves, and those who do good". [An-Nahl: The Bee: 128] Is there any best than always having Allah on your side?!!

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By: Abduldaem Al-Kaheel

Reference: BBC

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Love and Mercy between Spouses for healing Diseases



"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves" ….

It was in Allah's Book before fourteen centuries Almighty's saying, "And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect." [Ar-Rum: The Roman: 21] It is a great verse that we discover its secrets day after a day. One who considers this verse, realizes the importance of sympathetic, mercy and love between spouses, and also discovers that Allah has given us a way for success, healing and happiness in our marital life, that is we take the way of love and mercy. But, unfortunately, we deviated greatly from that course, and thus problems stemmed, especially the divorce phenomenon which spread like fire in hay. There are domestic violence, family disintegration and millions of husbands who do not enjoy happiness with their wives, why?

The answer is included in the above verse, and Allah summarized it into two words: (love and mercy). As long as there are love, sympathetic and compassion between the spouses, life will be happy and quiet. By disappearance of these two "indicators" from the house, happiness vanishes and life becomes unbearable hell.

However, the new discovery which was revealed by scientific studies was that family quarrel is an obvious reason for weak immunity, and the implications of this quarrel are not only reflected on psychological comfort but they lead to fragile immunity in individuals who are suffering from it. This has been confirmed recently by experts from United States in studies and experiments they had done. (According to Germany News Agency) Their Homepage reported that:

A group of American experts have reached a conclusion that man immunity is negatively affected in case of the outbreak of family disputes. This is the result of a study conducted on 42 families that experienced martial disputes. Simultaneously, researchers supported that family quarrel and no accord between spouses lead mostly to family health deterioration. This applies especially to individuals who are suffering from disease symptoms. Some Swedish researchers validated that family disputes lead in most occasions to doubling heart attacks in those who are already suffering from heart diseases. Also, studies pointed that work stress does not lead to complications that family quarrel leads to.

A photo of neurons in a human brain and which store programs needed to give orders to the immune system to perform its duties. Experts do not know till now how stress affects body immune system for individuals who are suffering from family problems. But, it is expected that the abnormal movement of the neurons play an important role in weakening the immune system. Immunity has a connection in healing the human damaged vascular tissues. Researchers corroborated that disappearance of mercy between spouses is the main cause of disease infection especially chronic diseases.

Dr. Janice Kiecolt-Glaser and her colleagues from the Internal Surgery & Psychology Division in Columbus University, Ohio carried tests on wounds healing in spouses who are experiencing family disputes. In this regard, physicians put measuring devices under the armpit of the study participant. A nurse took blood samples before the wound and after. Experts were asking subjects certain questions, besides, conducting certain psychological tests. In addition, they asked the spouses to discuss certain topics. Results of these tests showed how the spouses dealt with each other, besides, evaluating marital relation based on these results. The results showed that more than one third of the spouses who were subjected to tests lived in a hostility environment. In addition, these subjects expressed their anger by uttering profanity during discussion of certain topics and made movements unusual in the daily life of spouses accompanied with weird charges. Subjects did not listen to each other during quarrels. The study verified that wound healing period in spouses who quarrel is more than in spouses who lead a happy and joyful life.

Study Results:

We, as Muslims, Allah has blessed us with the grace of faith. We are glad that Allah Almighty advised us to take care of women and the Prophet (pbuh), Almighty says, "live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good." [An-Nisa: The Women: 19] The Prophet says, "Urge you to treat women well"

This is the greatness of Islam. It has brought us benefit, good and healing.

If we look into the statements of psychologists and the studies of Neuro Linguistic Programming, we will find their advices to spouses. The most important of them is if you were complaining from marital problems at home, try to convince yourself that your wife is perfect and look for beautiful things in her and things that attract you to her, and remember that any woman has many beautiful things, nonetheless, you have to look for and see the bright side and then the dark side disappears!

Dears, these advices were reported by psychologists specialized in handling marital problems. There are thousands of books written on the topic, but the Quran summarized all that in one line. Let us consider and delve into these wonderful divine words. I recommend to anyone who is suffering from a family problem to repeat these words: "If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good." [An-Nisa: The Women: 19]

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By: Abduldaem Al-Kaheel

www.kaheel7.com/eng

References:

http://www.dw-world.de

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Power of Influencing Others and Gaining their Confidence



"Invite (all) to the Way of thy Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching; ….

My interest in this topic has taken many years. I have been looking in books of psychology and psychoanalysis for the effective ways to influence others positively. Who is not of us who does not deal with others and wish to leave a good effect on them? And who of us who does not wish to gain the trust of those around him and give a positive impression of his character? But what is the way to achieve that?

My brothers in Allah! I have found several techniques that man can use in his daily life and during his dealings with community. He will influence others positively and gain not only their confidence but their love. These techniques were introduced by Dale Carnegie, the most famous American writer and who was considered to be the best writer of the past century. He introduced these techniques as a result of tests conducted for more than thirty years.

What drew my attention was that what the writer introduced was exactly what the Quran had introduced!! He says in his book "How to Win Friends and Influence People":

The First Way: Avoid Arguments

The best way to win others and influence them is to avoid arguments! Try to shorten talk to the minimal possible, because arguments weaken trust and thus the power of your influence on others wanes.

This way was introduced by the Quran since fourteen centuries in Almighty's saying, "Invite (all) to the Way of thy Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching; and argue with them in ways that are best and most gracious: for thy Lord knoweth best, who have strayed from His Path, and who receive guidance."[An-Nahl: The Bee:125].

Here, the Quran has not forbidden us from debating, but he ordered us good argument since avoiding arguing is not practically possible. There are individuals who you cannot gain their confidence unless you debate with them.

Herein, I wonder of those skeptics of the Apostle's message. If their views of The Prophet of Mercy were true, why would he command us to argue in a good manner? Why we were ordered good preachment. The only explanation for the existence of these teachings in the Quran was because it is the Book of Allah Almighty.

The Second Way: Avoid the Anger and Emotion

The American writers said that your way to handle problems should be based on kindness, softness and wisdom. Try to detach from emotions, anger and tension, because emotion leaves negative effect on others and sends them a wrong idea about your character.

Here, we remember again the advice of the Great Prophet (pbuh) to the Arab individual and which he repeated so many times: (Do not get angry… Do not get angry… Do not get angry…) and we remember Almighty's saying, "who restrain anger, and pardon (all) men;- for Allah loves those who do good" [Al 'Imran: The Family of 'Imran: 134]. Subhaan Allah! Consider with me the Quranic way in shaping the believer's character, forgiving people, managing anger, not rushing or being emotion, all those give positive effect and leave good impression in the hearts and minds of those around you.

The Third Way: A Good Word is More Effective

A good word is the most important way that psychologists advise in influencing others. It is unnecessary to tell someone he is wrong if he makes a mistake in front of you. Call attention to his mistakes indirectly by choosing good words to express yourself, and this way will leave a wonderful effect among those who are around you.

Here, we come back to Almighty's Book when He says, "speak fair to the people" [Al-Baqara: The Cow: 83]. Almighty says, "Seest thou not how Allah sets forth a parable? - A goodly word like a goodly tree, whose root is firmly fixed, and its branches (reach) to the heavens,- of its Lord. So Allah sets forth parables for men, in order that they may receive admonition. It brings forth its fruit at all times, by the leave of its Lord. So Allah sets forth parables for men, in order that they may receive admonition." [Ibrahim: Abraham: 24-25]

Dear reader, try to choose the best words to address others, and be a good listener. Do not talk much, but try to listen because this will lessen your mistakes and present you in good shape in front of others, nevertheless, man likes to be listened to.

Almighty says, "O ye who believe! Fear Allah, and (always) say a word directed to the Right: . That He may make your conduct whole and sound and forgive you your sins: He that obeys Allah and His Messenger, has already attained the highest achievement." [Al-Ahzab: the Clan: 70-71]. These verses bear out that a believer has to put words in the right situation. By doing so, Allah will fix his deeds and this way will be the reason for success in this World and the Hereafter.

The Fourth Way: Do not Stick to your Mistake

Psychologists and Carnegie among them confirmed that admitting being wrong is a merit that raises you in the eyes of people. Do not try to prove the correctness of your view and you know you are mistaken, but try to be soft in your discussion and admit mistakes. This way will give others an impression that you are genuine and thus increases their confidence in you and your influence on them.

The Prophet (pbuh) stated this technique in his saying, (All Adam's sons are erroneous, but the best of those erroneous are the repentants) That is to say that the best work to do is to admit mistakes in front of Allah Almighty, repent to Him, and apologize about what you have done wrong to those you had hurt.

The Fifth Way: Honesty is the Shortest Way to Win Others' Confidence

We see the Western World provides genuine treatment, not only because their religion commands them to do so, in addition to that most of them do not have a religion, but because they found that honesty is the base of success in life. Therefore, psychologists vindicated that the shortest way to win others and influence them is honesty in what you say and what you do.

Here, we remember The Right Almighty says, "O ye who believe! Why say ye that which ye do not? Grievously odious is it in the sight of Allah that ye say that which ye do not. "[As-Saff: The Ranks: 2-3]. And He says, "O ye who believe! Fear Allah and be with those who are true (in word and deed)." [Al-Tawba: Repentance: 119] There is a great verse that I found a strange power in it to cure the lying phenomenon which spread these days with light speed. This verse addresses us and says, "it were best for them if they were true to Allah." [Mohammed: Muhammad: 21] If everyone kept these divine words and recalled them at the time he encounters a situation where he may tell a lie, these words would be the best remedy for lying, and a reason for keeping us away from lying and this is what will help us to win others' respect, their confidence and our influence on them.

The Sixth Way: Refrain from Using the Word "No"

Try as possible as you can to keep away from it because it is a negative word! Instead of saying to someone why he did that or do not do so, change this statement with a positive expression e.g. what about doing so!! Or do not you think this is better to do?

This way was discovered by Neuro Linguistic Programming experts in people who are successful, wealthy and famous. They found that their way in dealing with others is based on advice and not faulting others, defaming and reprimanding them.

Here, I do not find a better example than the one the Greatest Prophet offered when he was served by Anis Bin Malik for ten years. He did not hear from the Apostle (pbuh) the statement (why you did so) and did not hear a reprimanding expression or any negative expression, but the Prophet of Mercy (pbuh) used positive statements in dealing with others, and this is what we should do.

The Seventh Way: Arrogance is the Worst Attribute Man can Have

Psychologists consider arrogance as a thick barrier that detaches you from the love and respect of others, and thus you influence them negatively. There are several studies that confirm the importance of modesty in winning others' confidence, and keeping away from greed, envy and other reprehensible characteristics.

The Prophet (pbuh) preceded psychologists in giving us the most wonderful formula for winning love of others when he said: (Renounce what people have, they will like you). Consider these words of The Prophet and which if we use; we will solve most of the age problems.

Allah forbid arrogance strongly, Almighty says, "verily He loveth not the arrogant." [An-Nahl: The Bee: 23] Who humbles himself to Allah, Allah Almighty will raise him. This technique in dealing with others leads to gain their confidence, because Allah has created man on a natural inclination for philanthropy, modesty and honesty. Therefore, following these techniques in dealing with others as if you are addressing their depths, and their nature and thus you positively influence them and this what we all aspire to.

I conclude this article with an idea I arrived at after years. This idea is that all the true and certain facts which psychologists has discovered, the Quran has told about before fourteen centuries!! Our role as believers who claim to love the Quran is to originate this science to its Quranic origins, and we aspire to be in the best grade in front of Allah. The way to that, we follow The Prophet of Mercy in his practices and his way of handling problems and his way of dealing with the community. We ask Allah Almighty to let us be part of those He said about, "They are those on whom (Descend) blessings from Allah, and Mercy, and they are the ones that receive guidance." [Al-Baqara: The Cow: 157].

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By: Abduldaem Al-Kaheel

References:

www.guidetopsychology.com

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Effect of Kind Words



"speak fair to the people; be steadfast in prayer; and practise regular charity" ….

Many people do not know the influence of a word on others. A good word may be a reason for healing someone or pleasing another. A bad word may be a reason in hurting others more than hitting! What made me write this article is a study conducted by American researchers on the influence of a bad word, but before we introduce the results of this study which was published in the Psychology Sciences newspaper, I would like to share with you a precious verse on the influence of a word.

Almighty says, "Seest thou not how Allah sets forth a parable? - A goodly word like a goodly tree, whose root is firmly fixed, and its branches (reach) to the heavens,- of its Lord. So Allah sets forth parables for men, in order that they may receive admonition. * It brings forth its fruit at all times, by the leave of its Lord. So Allah sets forth parables for men, in order that they may receive admonition. * And the parable of an evil Word is that of an evil tree: It is torn up by the root from the surface of the earth: it has no stability."[Ibrahim: Abraham: 24-26]

The Greatest Prophet substantiated this meaning when he said a man utters irresponsibly a word which makes him enter Paradise, and that a man says irresponsibly a word which throws him in Hell for seventy autumns!

This means that a believer should be accurate in what he says and should choose always a good word because a word has a great influence on man. Researchers said on (BBC Homepage) that the saying, "A stick and stones may break bones when words do not hurt" is not true. Painful memories geared to emotional experiences are more painful than those related to physical pain.

Researchers of this study said that changes that happen in the brain and allow us to work in group or societal frame may be the key for understanding this issue. The study sample included volunteering students who were asked to write about their painful physical and emotional experiences. Then, a tough mental test was conducted after a short time of writing these experiments.

The main principle that the study depended on was that whenever the experience which the student remembered was more painful, his performance on the test was worse. Results were better when remembering physical pain than emotional pain. Shinsung Zein, a researcher from Purdue University, Indiana, USA, said that it is difficult to revive the remembrance of physical pain compared to social and emotional pain.

There is a side in the brain that may be responsible for experiences and painful words that man faces, that is the cerebral cortex which performs difficult processes including thinking, perception and ********. This part of the brain enhances man's ability to adapt with other groups and cultures, besides, it is responsible for the reaction to pain that has a relation to the group.

Michael Hojsman, a Child Psychology specialist in Germany, said that it is probable that several parts of the brain deal with emotional pain which is considered to have a long range effect. That is, in physical pain you can see wounds and bruises while emotional pain leaves mostly concern and fear. If pupils said to a classmate that they will punish him after classes, he will live anxiety and fear more than what may actually happen to him.

What we benefit from these results

Such studies conducted by non-Muslims confirm the trueness of the Islam message. Allah commanded us to choose our words that do not hurt others, and positively influence others. These verses point that.

Almighty says, "Kind words and the covering of faults are better than charity followed by injury. Allah is free of all wants, and He is Most-Forbearing."[Al-Baqara: The Cow: 263]He said also, "and shun the word that is false" [Al-Hajj: The Pilgrimage: 30]. Allah ordered us to call people gently, carry out good argument and choose the word that is more influential and leaves a positive effect on others to get the correct idea about Islam. Almighty says, "Invite (all) to the Way of thy Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching; and argue with them in ways that are best and most gracious: for thy Lord knoweth best, who have strayed from His Path, and who receive guidance." [An-Nahl: The Bee: 125]

These studies should increase our assurance of the impact of the good word. The good word is a charity as told by The Prophet, The Mankind Master (pbuh). Then, consider how Allah introduced the good word in front of prayer, the foundation of religion, when he addressed Children of Israel: "speak fair to the people; be steadfast in prayer; and practise regular charity" [Al-Baqara: The Cow: 83].

Also, you, my brother believer, should know that every word you utter, leaves an effect on the recipient's brain, and this effect does not disappear through time but stays. Therefore, be careful to leave a good effect in the brain and hearts of others, you do not know that one word you utter may be the reason to enter Paradise on the day of meeting with Allah.

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By: Abduldaem Al-Kaheel

References: bbc.co.uk