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Children and sexual assault
Recent figures about practicing sexual activities against children state that 15% of sexual assault and rape victims are under age 12 and 29% are between age 12-17 where44% are under age 18.Also figures states that 80% are under age 30.Also researchers say that girls ages 16-19 are 4 times more likely than the general population to be victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault and 7% of girls in grades 5-8 and 12% of girls in grades 9-12 said they had been sexually abused. Statistics illustrate that nearly 30% of child victims were between the age of 4 and 7.
-7 Illegitimate children
In United States, number of births which are resulted from illegitimate marriage had increased to be 37 %( statistics in 2004).we have to mention that phenomenon of illegitimate children in western countries is accepted from both men and women.
A published study on the website of the BBC stated that number of illegitimate children in Britain is 12% in 1998 and it increased to be 42% in 2004 (Office for National Statistics) . In western European countries ratio of illegitimate children (sons of adultery) is 33% (the annual ONS' Social Trends report).
Statistics say that ratio of men who lives with illegitimate wives is 24% and ratio of women who lives with illegitimate husbands is 25% (ONS, 2004).
The above graph is to represent ratio of illegitimate children in some European countries, in Sweden it is 55% in 2004 and in Spain it is 22% in 2003. Therefore, from every 100 newborn babies there are from 22 to 55 illegitimate babies, don’t you see that it is an indication for the imminent collapsing of the western civilization (BBC).
Supplication to facilitate marriage
Dear my sisters and brothers, all of us ask God to grant him or her good wife and a good husband, but we have to admit that all countries are facing problem of marriage delay.
After many years of researches I found that dependence on God is the shortest way to facilitate marriage as we have to be satisfied with our destiny and to know that God is the one who knows the best for us and we don’t know the best for ourselves. And we have to make things easier for ourselves so that God will facilitate everything for us.
One of the most effective methods to facilitate marriage is to ask Allah seven times with the supplication of prophet Zakaria, God says in Qur’an 
"O My Lord Leave me not single (childless), though you are the Best of the inheritors.) (Sûrat Al-Anbiyâ’ - verse 89) and to read (Sûrat Al-Ikhlâs) many times also to read And among His Signs is that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect) (Sûrat Al Rum - verse 21). Also read the first verse in Quran (Sûrat Al-Fâtihah) seven times. My brothers in God
These information and statistics are not just for reading but to look attentively at a sign of God which is marriage. Allah puts repose and mercy between couples. When we read the results of the new researches about the physiological stability of married people, therefore we have to realize the meaning behind the following verse that you may find repose in them) and to supplicate by the supplication of believers which is (And those who say: "Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders of the God-fearing people) (Sûrat Al Forkan - verse 74). A scientific study: Enhancing income by marriage
Researchers say that marriage increase income and that is against the wrong thoughts of people who believe that marriage and children leads to losing money and poverty. Also, those researchers believe that marriage offers important social and economic benefits. Children who grow up with married parents generally enjoy a higher standard of living than those living in single-parent households. Two parents are usually better than one not only because they can bring home two paychecks, but also because they can share responsibilities for child care. Marriage often leads to higher levels of paternal involvement than divorce, non-marriage, or cohabitation.
Researchers say that Marriage Boosts Income so they advise people to marry and get children to live a happy life
Daniel Lichter of Ohio State University puts it this way: "Marriage can be a pathway from poverty, but only if women are 'marriageable,' stay married, and marry well."
Dr. Daniel T. Lichter is the Ferris family professor in the Department of Policy Analysis and Management, and Professor of Sociology.
A study published in the Journal of Sociology and conducted by Ohio State University researcher Jay Zagorsky found that “married individuals have almost double the net worth of those that are divorced [or] single” with wealth being defined “by such factors as home value, stocks, cash, and savings vehicles.”
Jay Zagorsky, a research scientist at Ohio State University’s Center for Human Resource Research.
”Children living with single mothers are five times more likely to be poor than children in two-parent households. Children in single-parent homes are also more likely to drop out of school and become teen parents, even when income is factored out. And the evidence suggests that on average, children who live with their biological mother and father do better than those who live in stepfamilies or with cohabiting partners.... In light of these facts, policies that strengthen marriage for those who choose it and that discourage unintended births outside of marriage are sensible goals to pursue.” Said Barack Obama, president of the united states of American in his book” The Audacity of Hope “ which was published In February 2006.
The Audacity of Hope: Thoughts on Reclaiming the American Dream is the second book written by Barack Obama .In the fall of 2006 it became number one on both the New York Times and Amazon.com bestsellers lists.
Jennifer A. Marshall the director of the DeVos Center for Religion and Civil Society at The Heritage Foundation reported that about two-thirds of poor children live in single-parent homes. Government spends $300 billion annually to assist low-income single parents.
But if poor single mothers married the fathers of their children, nearly two-thirds could escape poverty immediately.
Another study by Maria Cancian at university of Wisconsin and Debbie Reed
Public Policy Institute of California examined the importance of changes over the last several decades in family structure and the relationships among family structure, childbearing, employment and poverty. They stated in the study that Child Poverty has grown Since the 1960s and that increase is due to changes in family structure that push poverty higher due to decline in marriage, growth in non-marital births then children are more likely to be raised in single-parent families as in the graphs below:
An obvious increase in poverty rate from 1969 to 2006
Decline in Marriage rate from 1970 till 2006
Analyzing this fact leads us to believe that marriage is the only way to build a robust community. According to the principles of Islam, marriage should be as soon as possible when all needed facilities are ready for both man and woman.
Allah Almighty Who created us and knows the better for us says: (And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect){Sûrat Ar-Rûm -The Romans –verse21}.
Marriage helps in survival from cancer
US researchers from Indiana University analyzed data on 3.8m people diagnosed with cancer between 1973 and 2004.They found people who were married had a 63% chance of surviving five years, compared to 45% of people who were separated, the journal Cancer reported.
The team said the stress of break-up probably affected survival rates and
Previous studies have looked at the impact of marriage on health outcomes.
Many have found a beneficial effect with experts suggesting the love and support of a partner is essential in battling against illness.
This theory is supported by the findings of the latest study. researchers looked at five and 10-year survival rates for married, widowed, divorced and never-married patients as well as those going through a separation at the time of diagnosis.
After marriage, never-married patients had the best outcomes, followed by those who had been divorced and then widowers.
Lead researcher Dr Gwen Sprehn said: "Patients who are going through separation at the time of diagnosis may be a particularly vulnerable population for whom intervention could be prioritized.
"Identification of relationship-related stress at time of diagnosis could lead to early interventions which might favorably impact survival." Added Sprehn.
New discovered benefits for early marriage
A new research shows that children born to older fathers tend to have lower intelligence.
Professor John McGrath from the Queensland Brain Institute at the University of Queensland, says the study found children at the ages of four and seven, with older dads, performed a little worse on cognitive tests.
"The offspring of dads who are about aged 50 are scoring about two IQ points less than offspring of fathers who are about 20," he said
.Professor McGrath says it makes sense that children of more educated and stable women do better, but it is not clear why that does not apply to the kids of older fathers.
"It's a very small effect but when we ******* for things like the mother and father's education, and the mother and father's socio-economic status, this link between paternal age and how the children are going is still there," he said.
Professor John McGrath from the Queensland Brain Institute at the University of Queensland
"We have data on the children when they were eight months old, four years old and seven years old, and the offspring of older dads do a little bit worse, fairly consistently." Said john.
Previous research by Professor McGrath's team has shown an increased risk of schizophrenia among children born to older fathers.
We have to remember the prophetic advice as prophet Mohamed tells us from 1400 years the following advice “whoever is able to marry , he or she must do”[narrated by Al-Bukhari]”.
Another study held by the Danish University of Aarhus concluded the same result.
The Danish study, one of the largest of its kind, adds to the evidence that biological clocks can be a crucial factor for both men and women when it comes to having children.
The researchers warned: 'The risks of older fatherhood can be very profound and it is not something that people are always aware of.'
The University of Aarhus study tracked the health of more than 100,000 first-borns for up to the first 18 years of their lives.
During that time 831 died, with the majority of deaths in the first year after birth.
Analysis found a clear link between cause of death and the father's age, with children of teenage fathers and of over-45s up to 88 per cent more likely to die than those born to men aged between 25 and 29.
What should we learn from all of these studies?
There are many lessons that we should learn from these studies as following:
1. People should believe that marriage has many benefits and it is not just a way to empty human’s libido.
2. Keeping away from marriage is against human nature because Allah Almighty the creator of all creatures and His prophet orders us to marry because of the many benefits of marriage.
3. Atheists and disbelievers were totally wrong when they assumed that marriage is a personal choice and people may choose another kind of relations instead of marriage such as homosexuality.
4. Allah Almighty wanted us to reach all recent scientific conclusions about the importance of marriage without going through all of these kinds of bad experiences such as homosexuality, adultery, Aids, violence, etc………….
5. Also prophet Mohamed peace be upon him advise us to marry to be a good follower for him be saying: “I am the most one who know Allah and I am the most one who is afraid from Allah but I fast and eat, sleep and pray at night and marry women so anyone who don’t do like me is not following me”.[reported as a right hadith by Al-ALBANY]
6. Western countries are used to advice people to delay marriage after forty, but now they are calling people to marry as young as possible because of the many benefits for human and community.
7. All of the above prove that religion of Islam is not calling for underdevelopment but the problem is that human didn’t understand these orders. Allah Almighty says: (And whoever seeks a religion other than Islam, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers){Sûrat Al-Imrân - The Family of Imran –verse85}.
Thanks Allah for the blessing of Islam
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By: Abduldaem Al-Kaheel
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